Of course things can't go smoothly, that would be to simple! God is definitely trying to teach us patience and how to put all our trust in Him! We are facing a big decision which has really been stressing us out. We found out a week ago that Kazakhstan gives only blind referrals, which means you don't know anything about your child until you get there and meet them. Our organization said that many people have traveled there and have found their child to have some severe medical problems. Therefore, the couple has to get matched with another available child while their there, or they go home without a referral. This usually means that they wait some more and the waiting time is already up to 12-15 months. Frustrated we asked what they (CHI) recommended, they said we should switch to Russia. However, that is a 2 plus year wait and we should put that we will accept a 24 month old. We of course were hoping for a child under 18 months (or infant). Needless to say, we were very upset. We couldn't imagine waiting another 2 years! So, we decided to look around at other organizations to compare programs and wait times. What we found is that many programs are moving much faster (as per web site). I plan to make some calls on Monday to talk to these other organizations. If times are shorter, we may end up switching agencies and possibly countries too. I am disappointed however, because I really like CHI. I feel that they do an excellent job and I believe that is why their wait times are so long. Their are a lot of families adopting through them!
So next time you read this, hopefully we'll have our minds made up about where were adopting from and who our agency will be. Any ideas or advice for us, please let us know! Pray that God will give us insight, patience and trust! God Bless you all!
Sunday, January 27, 2008
Making Decisions
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I'm so sorry to hear that Kaz isn't going to work out for you. Vietnam is going to be closing for renegotiations at the end of August, so unless our referral comes within the next few months, we may be switching countries as well. We have been looking at the Panama program through Faith International Adoptions: http://www.faithadopt.org Lifelink is currently working with them for their adoptions through Vietnam, so I think they will be a good liaison for us if we decide to go that route. Whatever you decide, I know that God will be with you.
James and Melanie - I'd like to invite you to our blog. Its private, if you email me at ruley@tampabay.rr.com I will send you an invite.
This is a difficult time for you. We are currently a waiting kaz family, and we have had to change countries and agencies, so I understand.
We went with Commonwealth Adoptions International to Kaz and to date I have not heard any, not one, horror story at all. We traveled blind and everything was fine. Basically they don't send you a referral but the "in-country" people kind of scout out a few possiblilities and when you meet the child you'll be able to tell which one is "the one"
We fell in love with our son and I am glad he was the one because even if it wasn't "their" choice it was definatly ours. Kaz is a good program. We grew up in Panama and tried that first but there are so slow that they shut their program down when we tried. Both my husband and I lived there and we loved it but for my ten years there I can definatly tell you that they are bass-ackwards if you know what I mean. Good luck in what ever you do. Check out Commonwealth though and see what they say. If you need something privatly we are at www.jaimiegena@yahoo.com or our blog is www.berikjames.blogspot.com Sincerly, G Lloyd
Hi James and Melanie. We too have had difficulties with agencies in the past and have switched agencies. Please feel free to read our blog, and to email us if you would like to talk to someone who has switched agencies: kmichel525@hotmail.com.
We will be thinking of you.
Kim and Jamie
Hi James and Melanie..
I can say wholeheartedly that we UNDERSTAND what you are going through. We switched agencies 6 weeks ago. We feel so much more confident and relaxed with the new agency. Send me an e-mail for an invite to our private blog. chirodoc@frontiernet.net
Hi, we also changed agencies from CHI. We completely understand your frustration!!!! We swiched to Adoption Ark and haven't had a single problem since! We were told horrible things about Kaz that were completely false!
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